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Can oral sex with more than one partner be safe?

By Anonymous April 7, 2017 - 7:44pm
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I'm 19 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We get on very well and he's funny and kind. His job takes him overseas for a few months at a time so there are long periods where I don't get to see him at all.

To inject some fun in our lives we both like to engage in lots of phone sex and we often use Skype to play this way. We also send each other explicit photos of ourselves.

Three months ago before he went away again my boyfriend suggested varying our Skype sex and asked if one of his mates could come round occasionally. He said it would be a huge turn on if his mate could hold the camera and film me giving him oral sex from a point of view perspective and my boyfriend could watch over skype and masturbate. I turned him down but he kept suggesting it and eventually I gave in and agreed to it.

I didn't think we'd actually go through with it but five weeks ago one of my boyfriends mates showed up at our flat and though I was nervous and reluctant to at first I ended up giving my boyfriends mate oral sex over skype while my boyfriend watched and masturbated. My boyfriend loved it and he's got me doing this now twice a week but two more of his mates have joined in and now the three of them take it in turns to come round for our Skype sex .

I know I shouldn't really be doing this but my boyfriend loves watching me do it and when his mate is holding the camera he can watch me pleasuring him and hear all of his mates gasps and moans all the way up to orgasm. Afterwards we have really great Skype sex and masturbate to each other. I'm even starting to quite enjoy the oral sex as well but my best mate was horrified when I told her what we are doing and thinks we should stop. I know she's probably right but my boyfriend really enjoys it and wants us to continue this. As the oral sex with these three lads is unprotected they've agreed to have a check if they get into contact with anybody else but can this be safe?

What should I do?


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Hi, Keely.

Thank you for your post.

I can't say I consider what you are engaging in as safe, (having oral sex with 3 men). Just be aware that, several sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and viral hepatitis can be passed on through oral sex. The risks depend on a lot of different things, including how many sexual partners you have, gender, and what particular oral sex acts you engage in.


April 8, 2017 - 4:53am
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Anonymous (reply to Helena)

Hi Helena,

Many thanks for the reply. Yes. I know there can be risks but my boyfriend really loves watching me do this and I actually quite enjoy it once it starts happening.

I am trying to find if this could be done reasonably safely and assume it could be okay If I'm the only person his mates are having sexual contact with and they could get tested if they have contact with anybody else although I have no idea how long between contact and a test would be okay.

I know we could use condoms but my boyfriend loves seeing his mates cum in my mouth and they all enjoy this too.

I'm just trying to find out if it's possible to create a safe environment to continue this in.

Many thanks


April 8, 2017 - 12:17pm
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The only way it would be safer, is to use condoms. They can tell you if they have sex with other people, tell you they are free of STD's, but that's a risk in itself, trusting they would actually disclose this information. Not everyone is truthful. It's not something I'd put my trust in.

Good luck though.


April 8, 2017 - 1:04pm
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