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failure to satisfy husband during sex

By Anonymous December 31, 2009 - 1:11am
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After giving birth to my first baby ,sex has never been th same again ,my virgine has become big and uanble to satisy my husbad.whenever we have sex i dont feel anything and neither does he.
Please advice.

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this is very helpful!

April 27, 2010 - 10:47am


I'm so sorry to hear that you're having this problem.

How long ago did you have your baby? (And congratulations, by the way!)

Did you have an episiotomy?

How large was your baby?

Here's some information from a certified nurse midwife on babycenter.com:

"Whether or not your vagina returns to its original size depends on a number of factors: the size of your baby, the number of children you've had, and whether you do Kegel exercises regularly. After giving birth vaginally, it's normal for the vagina to be larger than it was before, and this effect generally is more pronounced after the birth of a large baby. This is caused by relaxation of the pelvic floor musculature. These muscles will lose their tone with each successive birth, although pelvic floor exercises known as Kegels can help you tighten them up.

"If you haven't already done so, I strongly recommend that you begin to do Kegels. Kegels involve perineal tightening and help to restore the tone of the muscles that surround the opening of the urethra, vagina, and anus. Since this includes the muscle that you use to stop and start the flow of urine, you can check if you've identified the right muscle by testing your Kegel technique while urinating — if you can stop the flow of urine when tightening, then you know that you're contracting the correct muscle. But don't actually do your exercises while urinating, just use that as a check of your technique.

"As with any exercise, start doing Kegels a few at a time, a number of times each day. As your muscles start to feel stronger, gradually increase both the number of Kegels you do each day and the length of time you hold each contraction. Do the Kegels in sets of ten and try to work up to three or four sets about three times a day. Some women find that associating the exercise with certain activities (for example, while stopped at a red light, talking on the phone, or nursing the baby) helps them remember to do their Kegels. Besides improving vaginal tone, pelvic floor exercises help prevent urinary incontinence later in life."

Does that help?

December 31, 2009 - 9:12am
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