My fiance and i have been together for over 10 years, we had a short term separation and before that we had a wonderful sex life but since we got back together its been awful. He never wants to be together, nor even show any affection towards me. Our sex problem started just before we separated and i think that was part of the reason we separated; he has a fetish that i am willing to do with him on occasion but it turned into every time we were together and i hated it. I explained it to him how i felt and told him i didn't mind if it was occasionally but not all the time and after that is when our sex life declined and now its to nothing at all. I know he can perform if he wanted to so i know its not E.D. We aren't young but we surely aren't old by any means. I just want to feel loved and have him show me in sexual ways and in every day life. What can i do to try and fix this disaster before we get married???