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How to make him want me more?

By August 28, 2010 - 9:06pm
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My Fiance and I have been together for 6 years, we're planning on getting married next year and we have a 1year old son. Our relationships has had its ups and downs but I've got past some things and have learned to trust him again. My problem is that he doesn't seem to want sex like other men. I hear all my girlfriends say about how much there partners want it to the point of that they argue because the men want it to much, but my partner doesn't. I want it more and its so frustrating and confusing cause I dont know why. Sometimes I even find myself dreaming about having sex with him and I dont know if its because I know that we arent having much sex so I dream about it instead. Roughly we have it once a week. We are still young and I don't feel that that is enough. I know that I have put on weight since the birth of our son so I wonder if thats got to do with it but I think it was like this before he was born. When we've had our troubles in the past I was ready to leave and he begged me to stay so I know that he loves me but he just doesnt seem to want to have sex with me. What can I do to make him want me more??? HELP!

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Hi acw,
To be honest with you, having sex once a week is actually pretty good in a long term relationship. It appears to me that you and your fiancé should talk about your sexual preferences. For example, how much would satisfy you in the relationship? How much would satisfy him?
As in any relationship, compromise is the answer to all our life questions about relationships. Sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling and see what his concerns are about your sex life and try to come to an agreement that each one of you may be sexually different (in the amount of sex needed) but can still come to a compromise.
Sex is actually a small portion of the relationship, communication will be key. Can you keep us posted?

August 29, 2010 - 9:55am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I have talked about it to him before, but I feel like I'm pushy and he probably gets sick of me saying "sexy time tonight?" Maybe I'll try the "I don't want it approach" and maybe he'll start to want it more. I think its kinda like because he doesn't need to ask for sex, he knows he can pretty much have it whenever he wants so he feels he doesn't need to have it. It's frustrating but I think I just need to ease up and maybe go "special shopping" hehe. I'm not willing to put strain on our relationship just because of sex. Your right, its only a small part of any relationship. Thankyou so much for your advice =)

August 29, 2010 - 4:43pm
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