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I am female 21 yrs and have NO sex drive whatsoever. Help?

By Anonymous October 2, 2009 - 8:54pm
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I am twenty-one years old and have pretty much never been too interested in sex. I have been on depo provera since I was 16 and I've heard it lowers a woman's sex drive, but I've never even masturbated in my entire life either (no joke). I have a boyfriend that I've been with for two years. Before dating him, I had totally abstained for 8 months and had a bit more of a sex drive than I had before, but then it leveled out back to normal in about two months. He's been incredibly patient and we've tried different stimuli and I'm still just not interested in sex--at all, ever. It's really straining my relationship and I love him a lot and would like to make him happy, but I honestly can't say that even mentally I want to have sex or even be stimulated. I have no memory of it, but all my doctors and psychologists seem to think I was molested when I was a child. But, I don't remember that even if it did happen, so I can't see how it would bother me psychologically. Will someone please help me?

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