I am a Man, why aren't women interested in having sex with me anymore?

did you ever ask your girl that question? why she doesn't like that.. in fact, sharing your feeling during and after sex is quite important to improve your sex life next time.. you can also find support on a trust healthy sex support site Positivemate.. ask the live counselor..hope you can find the reason soon..

Id say to go out with a couple of your closest boys to a local club and have them wingman for you...buy a couple drinks for the girl u wanna get to know...aim for one that seems down to earth and not full of herself, cuz in your condition it may be easier to get sympathy from the gentle type and by the way ur talkin, thats probably exactly what u want. so gather up some courage an get ur groove on ma dude!

Hi Christopher,
If she is a busy woman, write her an e-mail or some other form of electronic message of some sort to explain your feelings towards her. The electronic age has certainly gave way to an easier way to tell people how you feel if they are busy busy busy. I know this feeling all too well.

If it is meant to be, it will happen in time and at the right time. I hope by the time you receive this message, you have great news to share.
Best of luck and keep us posted,
Missie

shoot, I have been trying to get my fiance' to make love to me, it's been 3 months now. He tried a couple times since but has "men issues" due to stress, too much work, age, weight and meds taken, but he won't get help..actually he won't admit to having a "problem". I am a good looking woman, and have other men knocking on my door, but I only desire my love only.
Best of luck to you too in this situation. I completly understand how you feel!

Hi Christopher,
Thank you for the additional information and the compliment. I just had this feeling that there was more to the story. Let's look at the facts: you have lost your self-confidence due to your Dystonia. Is it really SEX that is bothering you or the ability to create a relationship as you now feel as if your speech, tightness in your neck and hand movements due to your illness are more or less now an obstacle?

From your first question to us, you explained that you are looking for someone special and someone to be intimate with, right? This would be a relationship in my dictionary so how do you build your confidence with what you consider your limitations. You are walking better so this is no longer an issue. It appears your speech, neck and hand movements may be the issue. According to the Mayo Clinic, the Deep Brain Stimulation may cause speech difficulties. Surgery is also another option and I am not sure if you have spoke to your physician about this already and what your thoughts were about it. Just curious, here is the website for more information http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dystonia/DS00684/DSECTION=treatments-and-drugs.

In every (negative) situation is a positive one. Don't forget that. You first explained yourself as an above-average physically attractive man so of course this is the first trait that attracts women. You have that. Secondly, you are alive and doing well. You may have some differences in your life due to the Brain Stimulation but are you still Christopher! Nothing has changed the person that you are which is the attractive part of any man.

This is always easier said then done, but don't let the little things bring you down. You are lucky to be here talking to me as others may not be as lucky. I think your spirits are broken due to the fact YOU think you have limitations but instead think of them as a blessing and possibly talk to your physician about possible alternatives to the side effects as I provided in the link above.

To share a story: I lost my husband in the Iraq war back in 2005. I am also an Army Vet and like to spend time with other military folk. I volunteer at a Veterans Hospital for the holidays and met a 19 year old young man that was wounded by a roadside bomb and lost both legs and one arm. He was the funniest character I have ever met. He somehow obtained a skateboard and learned how to go around the hospital with one arm and maintained control by moving his torso back and forth. This man was so attractive due to the sense of "yes, this happened to me" but he found his soul -that darn skateboard- and plus, he was really entertained by the idea that he can still make others laugh by tickling them with his one hand.

I hate analogies and have never been good at them but you can find your 'skateboard'. Do not be afraid to communicate, I am unsure if the neck issue is pain associated and as for the movement in your hands...does this deter you from things? Working? Has any of these things changed your life career wise?

I certainly hope this helps and I will be gladly help you any way possible. Yes, I have a multitude of male friends that I often help with women issues so not only do I work for Women but I am a sucker on the Man side too. Curious: do you know what caused your illness? Was it toxic exposure?
Best Wishes,
Missie

Hi Christopher,
As every woman may share a different sense of attraction: let me share with you a link that I found on Men's Health http://menshealth.about.com/od/psychologicalissues/a/Self_Confidence.htm.

I read it also and would certainly agree with what the article explains about self-confidence. I think most women would agree that a man that carries himself well, will certainly be helpful in a relationship setting.
The comment you made that you were fine "all but most recently" seems to me that something happened to create a barrier in your self-confidence. Break-up, perhaps? What happened?

Sincerely,
Missie