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I was disvirgin, but not bleeding

By Anonymous April 21, 2011 - 5:26am
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I was disvirgin three days ago, but i did not bleed at all and i feel pains all over my vaginal, my vaginal still seems tight like before because one finger can not go inside easily. Pls i'm i still going to feel pains if i have sex again. Because i did not feel any enjoyment in the first time.

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Hi,a year ago my boyfriend try to check if I was a virgin and he insert his finger in my Virginia and there was a stain of blood ,its one year he check ,today he try to disvirgin me he insert his middle finger and there was nothing like blood but i feel alot of pain it was as if something is about to pump out and he insert his dick and there was nothing like blood,he felt so bad and he mad at me ,but I feel more mad at myself because I have never for once had sex ,I do miss my period sometimes twice in a year which is as a result of the hormones, please what can I do am about to loose him

April 9, 2017 - 3:17pm

Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for finding EmpowHER. Speaking from experience, it is not uncommon for a woman to not enjoy her first time. It can be uncomfortable, and scary. However, if you love your partner, and you feel safe in engaging in sexual activity with your partner, it can become more enjoyable.
From what I have heard, it also is not uncommon to not have bleeding the first time you have sexual intercourse. Not everyone bleeds. What kind of pains are you feeling in your vagina? Was there too much friction? If the pain is excessive, you may want to call your doctor to get checked out. Especially now that you have been sexually active it may be a good idea to visit with a doctor for a reproductive health checkup. I know most gynecological doctors want to see you when you are (a) sexually active, (b) if you are 16 and haven't gotten your period yet, or (c) by the time you are 18 if not sexually active.
Also, if you have any additional questions, please let us know.
Take care,

April 21, 2011 - 7:10am
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Anonymous (reply to Christine Jeffries)

Thanks a lot,but my boyfriend complain that my Virginia is not tight, like the last time he check if I was a virgin,the pain I was talking about was that I try to ease myself but my Virginia was just hurting like there is a pepper in it am 22years,and I started my period at the age of 17

April 10, 2017 - 2:55am
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Anonymous (reply to Christine Jeffries)

i was dis virgin at the age of 26. but i loose much blood. i bleed for 24 hours and da pain was too much. even scared to have sex age what should i do cause am in West Africa

December 10, 2014 - 3:07am
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