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my boyfriend does not want to have sex

By Anonymous April 24, 2010 - 10:00am
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i am 22yrs old and my boyfriend is 26. we both are together from past 1year. my boyfriend is very much disinterested in sex. in the past we were active but 4months back he moved in with me and since then we had sex only thrice. i tried talking about it but he looks down at me when i express my sexual desires. I want him to want to. I'm just not satisfied anymore and i m not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. I love him a lot, but not having sex has made me more frustrated. he tells everybody he is going to marry me and i am confused about what to do. is he gay? or cheating on me or impotent? how should i solve this problem

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Hi Anonymous,

There are many relationships that nose dive when it comes to sex. It is so exciting when you first have sex, then you get serious and you find yourself in a desert. There are so many things that may cause a low libido such as stress, depression, erectile dysfunction (even in young men) and so forth.

Communication is key to all relationship issues. You must talk to him to get to the root of the issue. Be open minded but be stern that you need answers.

Here is a link that is ongoing with EmpowHer about the same issue. You may find some things that are common to your specific situation that you may find helpful https://www.empowher.com/search/google?cx=001740413268797642882%3Axdyajny4mzk&cof=FORID%3A11&query=my+boyfriend&op=GO&form_build_id=form-fe1d9b07bc84b5b548213b8353addadd&form_token=4818d75199172c22478458c79c94b6fb&form_id=google_cse_results_searchbox_form#1066.

There are many women in your same situation. Don't forget communication is key to getting your answers. Will you please keep us updated on what you find out? Obviously, this is an important topic and any information that you can add, would be helpful to others. Good luck!

April 24, 2010 - 10:39am
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i have talked to him about it, but he is very shy to discuss it and makes me feel that i am very cheap. the last three times i had sex with him the duration of sex was less than 10seconds, which never ever satisfied me and i discussed this as well but he does not care. every morning i cuddle him and pamper him but nothing effects him. its been more than 2 months v have not kissed each other. i feel he only wants me as a dummy who can sit besides him and do not talk at all. i love him but i am not happy with him. please help

April 24, 2010 - 11:03am
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