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Non-existent Sex Drive

By Anonymous January 22, 2009 - 6:25pm
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I have had many problems with excessive bleeding and my sex drive became non-existent (emotional, my guess). I have been taking depo-provera for a year now, so the bleeding has stopped but still I have no sex drive. I have tried taking Avlimil and mineral supplements to help increase my sex drive...still nothing. I bought KY for sensitive skin to help with the burning I feel during sex, and even though it eases the burning, I still have no sex drive. What could be the cause and how can fix this problem? My husband's sex drive is enormous so this has been a big fighting point for us.

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i have the same problem and im only 22. i have no interest in sex whatsoever and when i tell my bf im not in the mood i sometimes have to FORCE MYSELF to go through with it and get it over with otherwise i have to put up with hos constant pestering till i eventually agree with him and go through with it. also im having some minor bleeding and this is only my 3rd shot. can anyone help me? i know this post is 4 years old but ive tried everything, my dr wont even do anything. he just tells me that " its normal to bleed on depo " wouldnt be the first time either that i have bled on depo. its now my 4th.

March 9, 2013 - 3:19pm

Dear Anon, I am so sorry to hear you are experiencing challenges with your sexuality. But do not worry, I am sure the answer is at hand. Your concern merits medical consultation at a minimum, have you had a chance to speak to your doctor about this? Do you know the cause of your excessive bleeding? Are you perimenopause or post menopause age? When did the symptoms start? How was your sex drive before this? More importantly, are you having honest talks about your situation with your husband?

There are many factors that influence libido (sexual drive): stress, poor nutrition (i.e smoking, alcohol use, diabetes), emotional barriers, hormonal changes, etc. The main thing is to sort out the possible root causes and then develop a plan to address each aspect of your concern.

Hope you can share more information.

January 22, 2009 - 10:51pm
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Anonymous (reply to Coach Virginia)

I'm pretty sure I am peri-menopausal, but without going off the depo-provera for 6 months (according to my ob/gyn), there is no way to really test the hormones to be sure. I have talked to my husband a lot about this, because, as I said, his libido is very high. My ob/gyn doesn't know why the bleeding is so bad...I've had laporascopy (to view my ovaries, fallopian tubes and the inside and outside of my uterus) with no concrete results. My options are a uterine-ablation and low-dose birth control (which increases my migraines), or a hysterectomy. My doctor is reluctant to do the ablation because I have increased risk for uterine cancer due to my age, never breast-feeding, never carrying a child to full term and the thickness of my uterine lining. He is also reluctant to do the hysterectomy because my ovaries and fallopian tubes have adhered to my uterus and I am not post-menopausal and because of the amount of recovery time in relation to my physical activity

January 25, 2009 - 6:46pm
(reply to Anonymous)

If you are in peri-menopause, some of these symptoms may be what you are experiencing related to your sexual health:
* diminished sexual pleasure
* decreased sensitivity of breast and genital tissues
* decreased orgasmic response
* decreased libido
* low energy
* depression

Have you talked with your doctor about your specific concern regarding your low sex drive?

January 25, 2009 - 7:33pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

Alison, your list of symptoms just described me to a tee! There are the obvious suggestions of better nutrition and excersice, etc., but I wanted to suggest the product ZESTRA. It has helped me a great deal in the "diminished sexual pleasure", "decreased sensitivity" and "decreased libido" departments. It may be helpful for Anon's situation. Because it's all natural - essential oils and extracts - there's nothing to risk. I know the longer the dysfunctional situation lasts, the harder it is to get out of. Gladly, for me AND my husband, I found Zestra.

July 8, 2009 - 4:51pm
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