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Only young and no longer wanting sex, is something wrong with me?

By Anonymous July 23, 2008 - 4:42am
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I have been with the same guy for about 2 and a half years now. We have a baby girl together who is six months. He is the first guy I have been with but about 4 months into the relationship I stopped wanting sex. I would rather just cuddle or do something else. We have tried "new" things, tell each other what we like but it just doesn't work. And during sex I will be close to "finishing" and just all of a sudden it goes away. He bothers me for more sex and more "passion" in it but I just don't want it, is something wrong with me?
P.s I'm only 18 turning 19 soon.

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Your lack of desire for sex seemed to have started fairly soon into the relationship. There could be many reasons for that and it could be physical and/ or emotional or even socially related. This is the first guy you have been with and have the two of you discussed how you feel. You are both fairly young and have a huge responsibility of taking care of a baby.
Have you thought about why you may have stopped wanting sex? Was there a particular event that occurred that may have triggered this? Did you start on any medications at that time? Various medications can decrease a woman’s desire for sex, including birth control pills and antidepressants. The Women’s Sexual Health Foundation is conducting an online survey on antidepressants and a decreased sexual desire. 75% of women have stated that they have had decreased desire while on antidepressants..

A new baby can be exciting and wonderful, but can add additional stressors. Lack of sleep does not make one eager for romance. Plus breast feeding can have an impact. Prolactin, the hormone that helps your body produce milk, can decrease your sex drive. During breast feeding, estrogen levels are low, which may cause vaginal dryness.

It would be a good idea for the two of you to discuss these concerns with your doctor or nurse practitioner to get to what may be the root cause.

July 28, 2008 - 8:57am

i feel the same way, i crave the closeness, but i dont want to even go there.

July 23, 2008 - 1:02pm

Hi Kayle2389,

I don't think there's a woman in the world who hasn't felt the way you do right now. To find out more, we have forwarded your question to someone who is very well respected in the field of women's sexual health to examine possible causes and offer some solutions or ideas. Stay tuned.

July 23, 2008 - 11:52am
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