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Sex with my boyfriend?

By August 22, 2009 - 6:32am
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So me and my boyfriend have been together almost 2 years, and well when we first got together it was everyday 2 or 3 times a day for awhile, and well now its maybe 1 or 2 times every 2 months... I dont get it.. I'm 21 and he's 25.. I live on my own so it has nothing to do with parents or roommates.. When he sleeps here which is not as often as I would like but when he does sleep over I'm the one that always initiates sex. And when we do have sex it lasts like 15 minutes tops.. but it never use to.. I know sex isnt the main point to a relationship but it does help. I always bring this topic up and he's always like i love having sex with you but he doesnt! Ok so for instance last night he slept over and nothing, no making out no touching NOTHING. So when he left this morning I texted him and asked him why he doesnt like having sex with me or why he doesnt like to even have some for play and he says oh i do, you'll see bla bla... well I said dont just say this stuff because I'm bringing it up and he says hes not.. Can someone please tell me why this is happening!!! Thanks so much!!

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Did you asked if he has another woman or if he is a gay? Their is no reason not having sex with his girlfriend unless he is inlove with someone else or something wrong with his identity. Maybe you could ask him why he lost his interest of making love with you, does he has a problem? try to make a good conversation that could bring him up and let him talk. Tell him that you wont be mad whatever the reason is and you would understand.

August 26, 2009 - 9:26am
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My hubby and I have been together for over a year. I'm 21 and he is 32. I think that sex or "love making" is a wonderful thing. But it doesn't need to happen all the time when my hubby and I do it its always wonderful and for that matter sex doesn't have to take a long time I think when it takes to long it looses something don't get me wrong I love making love with my hubby but I feel if you don't do it all the time or even every day when you can do it its more special and meaningful I wouldn't worry to much perhaps your boyfriend just feels more like I do about sex perhaps you could sit down and have a heart to heart rather then get mad tell him how its hurting you and that you would like it if he would lets say kiss on you more and initiate it more often and if you two love each other telling each other so often, often helps as well
Just some friendly advice take it or leave it
Oh and PS some times people just feel that they have the wild days behind them and there is more to life and love but I do understand you wanting it more then once or twice a month or two :)

August 25, 2009 - 3:26pm
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