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What to do when your 20 year old boyfriend doesn't want to have sex as often as you do?

By Anonymous December 12, 2011 - 12:47am
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i've known my Boy friend for 3 years, but we just recently started having sex. He was my first and i was his second. Things are great and we are both very happy, but i always want sex more than him. He is as understanding as possible but its still a problem and i feel bad/embarissed for wanting him more. He is just about to turn 20 so i worry this might even get worse. He does work alot, stays up late frequently, and is stressed alot so maybe thats contributing? I just don't know what to do i keep getting more and more frustrated.

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Dear Anonymous,

It's normal for one person in the relationship to want sex a little more than the other but there has to be a happy medium that you can find. It sounds like you are having sex, you're in a committed relationship, and you boyfriend loves you. You shouldn't pressure someone to have constant sex with you because you may exhaust them but on those extra occasions when you do feel the urge why not try masturbating? There's nothing wrong with it and you'd get your satisfaction without your boyfriend feeling the added pressure to perform. 

Good Luck,


December 12, 2011 - 7:08am
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