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What should I do if my boyfriend never orgasms with me and can't stay hard...

By Anonymous August 6, 2009 - 11:39pm
 
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My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a while and we're really in love. However, whenever we try to have sex, it works at first but he can't stay into it. I don't know, I've never heard of this sort of problem before. I know that he's not gay, because he's in love with me, and I know that he's attracted to me because he gets hard.. it's just staying hard that's the problem. What can I do to help him out? I don't want to nag him... but I LOVE sex, and I love our connection. It just doesn't feel right when we have sex.. Can anyone help me?

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Ok, thanks for your help! If anyone wants to comment further, you're welcome to!

August 9, 2009 - 12:55pm
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Anonymous

Certainly seeking a physicians' opinion would be beneficial. There may be an underlying reason behind his impotence. Have you sought a professional opinion?

If he is open to you about the situation, your in better shape then you know. It is harder dealing with men that don't want to talk about it. There is always that dreaded, “I don't want to talk about it”.

I think in this situation, seeking professional help will help elevate the problem and doing this together may make your relationship better since you can be there for him. It may be embarrassing for him. Please keep us updated on the results. We would love to hear from you again.

August 9, 2009 - 10:38am
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Yeah, he's willing to talk about everything with me. He's extremely open with me, and I really can't believe that he is gay because I know him so well! There is no way he could lie so much to me.. and he's 32 years old and hasn't had a girlfriend for years. He only just started dating again for the first time in years because he was in a really bad relationship... Maybe because he hasn't done it in so long that's why.. I'm just not really sure. He said he's willing to do whatever it takes to fix this problem, he tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me! I truly don't believe he's gay.. Do you think maybe he needs viagra or something?

August 9, 2009 - 10:27am
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