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why cant i orgasm?

By December 24, 2010 - 6:37pm
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i'm 19. i have been having sex for a couple years now and my current boyfriend is the best i've had yet. we've had sex up to 4 or 5 hours straight and it is AWESOME.
yet, i never have orgasmed..every other girl friend of mine apparently has and look to me as if something is wrong with me and pity me for not being able to have one.
apparently im missing out on something fan-tabulous. and up until now it never bothered me... but now im starting to wonder if something is wrong with me?

and it makes my boyfriend seem... less of a man i guess because he feels like hes failing by not getting me to the big 'o' but really i think its just me.
why is it so easy for the other girls my age to but not me?

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easy? I had my first orgasm during intercourse at age 28, and I cried. My bf thought he was hurting me, because I had faked it. But it only happened twice in my life, and I am 40. I can thru masturbation and that is it.
But I love making love to my guy cause I get more of an emotional satisfaction out of it.
as far as the big O, I just satisfy myself.

December 29, 2010 - 7:34am
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Dear Thatonegirl,
This is not so uncommon. Women have a much more difficult time reaching an orgasm then men. We are not built the same way. There are two ways that women will reach an orgasm: clitoris stimulation and/or G-spot stimulation. The clitoris stimulation is much easier then the g-spot. Lots of manipulation to the clitoris with lubrication will help you understand how it works as well as give you time together practicing.  Keep trying and once you understand how it works, you will never forget it.
Good luck!

December 25, 2010 - 10:34am
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