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Why doesnt my boyfriend want sex like I do?

By April 29, 2010 - 6:41am
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Hello I am 27 female and my boyfriend is also 27.. We have been together for almost 10 years now.We rarely have sex, and its always been this way. Maybe once a month , and sometimes not even that. I was with one other guy and he always wanted to have sex. At the time I wished he hadn't.. It just seems like most guys want to have sex all the time. Well the guy I have been with and want to spend the rest of my life with doesnt want to have much sex. I always have to be the one to come on to him, and it is frustrating. It makes me feel like what is wrong with me? Also it has made me not even want to have sex with him. I feel if he dont want it why should i? I dont know.. Like I said we want a baby.Yes "WE" and I feel like it is never gonna happen at this rate. Not having sex the way we should has made me view him as more of a friend these days. I dont want it to be this way. I dont to give up. He says he is tired thats why he doesnt try to be the one to initialize sex. This is causing me more anxiety and depression. I feel that it is not possible to even get pregnant. Maybe one of us is infertile. Then I go back to well lets hope its because we Never have sex. I love him more than anything, and I do want to be with him for the rest of my life. I just want to be happy and it doesnt seem possible if things do not change. I have talked and talked and theres no way to make him understand i feel.. please help what should i do? and what makes a guy not have much of a sex drive??

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Well...jamilla. That is very serious problem from your side. That statement showing you are never get satisfaction from your Boy friend. you can try some tablets which can encourage him for sex. But the best suggestion is talk with him and try to solve this issue with discussion.

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April 30, 2010 - 3:39am

I'm curious...you said, "we've been together for 10 years, and rarely have sex, and it's always been this way."

I'm not sure why you think something is wrong now, when nothing has changed the past 10 years? Why are you wondering if he has a low sex drive, if he has always been this way? Does he enjoy sex with you, but you are wanting to have sex more often than he does? That does not necessarily mean he has a "low" sex drive or that you have a "high" sex drive...just that you two have different preferences.

Can you reply back and let me know why you are writing this now, since this is how your relationship has been the past 10 years? What has changed with YOU?

April 29, 2010 - 1:20pm
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