Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi Anonymous,
There was no risk of pregnancy because your girlfriend was wearing both underwear and pants. Her clothing acts as a barrier to keep sperm out.
A home pregnancy test is the way to know whether or not she is pregnant. Though I don't think she is, taking the test and seeing the results for yourself might settle the matter.
For the most accurate result, she must test in the morning and use the first urine of the day.
Moving forward, she should consider scheduling an appointment with a gynecologist, who can prescribe oral contraceptives to regulate her menstrual cycle and prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
Regards,
December 18, 2015 - 9:53amMaryann
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thanks Maryann for the help and suggestions .
December 18, 2015 - 7:06pmThis Comment
Hello. My name is Rose. Me and my boyfriend did some dry humping during my ovulation period. He had under wear and PJs on but I was naked. I saw some wet spot on his PJ which was touching my vagina. Can I get pregnant? PLEASE TELL ME. I'M VERY SCARED.
December 17, 2015 - 11:47amThis Comment
Hi so the other day my boyfriend and I were dry humping (14) and I had my leggings and a tong on. He didn't have anything on. I don't know if he had precum or not but he told me he didnt. He didn't ejaculate until like 7 or 5 minutes after and it wasn't even close to my vagina. I talked to everyone about it and looked it up online and they all said the same thing. Sperm can't go through clothing. I was just wondering because the next day around sunset I got my period, so does that indicate I have no reason to be stressed? Please answer. Thank you.
December 14, 2015 - 5:25amThis Comment
Hi kiannai2002,
You can relax. You did not become pregnant. Your period proves that. Sperm cannot go through clothing.
Regards,
December 18, 2015 - 10:01amMaryann
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My girlfriend and I had oral sex. She did a handjob to me and after I ejaculated she wiped her hands with a dry tissue then proceeded to wiped her vagina with the same tissue as well. Is there a chance of pregnancy from this? Please reply thanks.
December 12, 2015 - 6:39amThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
Might be a very slight risk if she was ovulating at the time and the semen was still wet.
Maryann
December 18, 2015 - 9:58amThis Comment
my girlfriend and I was fooling around we went dry humping....
December 7, 2015 - 3:59amShe wear panty and I had none, Is there any risk of getting pregnant?
Pls. reply ASAP I am totally worried
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Hello Anonymous,
No, there was no risk for pregnancy because she was wearing panties.
Maryann
December 7, 2015 - 10:28amThis Comment
Can pregnancy occur if there was dry humping but he was wet and I felt so as well both fully clothed .. Super worried.
November 20, 2015 - 12:42pmThis Comment