Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Can someone plz answer my question I posted right above this. Post
July 19, 2011 - 4:46pmcuz I'm flipping out a little
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Well were aren't sure if he touched a wet sit on his boxers...could touching cum on his boxers then touching the outside of my vagina for less than a minute get me pregnant?
July 19, 2011 - 9:12amThis Comment
My boyfriend and I were dry humping when he ejaculate...he pulled up his boxers a lil cuz they. Were slipping a little....but then he felt outside my vagina but I stopped him after not even a minute...how likely is it for me to get pregnant?
July 18, 2011 - 2:07pmThis Comment
Hi Anon,
If no semen came close to your vagina then you have no chance of being pregnant. Just because he lifted his boxers doesn't mean that any semen would get on his hands. You are not likely to be pregnant at all.
Best Wishes,
Rosa
July 19, 2011 - 8:25amThis Comment
Thanks soooo much you just made my day!
July 12, 2011 - 5:22pmThis Comment
Hi,
July 12, 2011 - 5:13pmTry to relax. There is no chance of getting pregnant this way.
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I know I'm ProBably flipping out for nothing but me & my bf were dry humping...after we were done I realized there was a spot of cum on my pants (we were fully clothed) I was wearing cotton/polyester sweatpants....is there any chance of it soaking through & getting me pregnant at all I'm just so nervous...thanks
July 12, 2011 - 3:16pmThis Comment
My boyfriend & I were dry humping when I noticed a spot of cum on my sweat pants (we were fully clothed) is possible for the sperm to soak through and get me pregnant? Thanks so much
July 8, 2011 - 8:01pmThis Comment
Hi Anon,
Sperm can soak through panties and very thin membranes if it is a large amount but it's very rare to get pregnant this way. If you spotted a dot of sperm on your sweat pants you have nothing to worry about. It won't soak through your sweat pants and underwear and you will not get pregnant.
Best Wishes,
Rosa
July 9, 2011 - 7:10amThis Comment
i'm wet that time because i was fertile. :|
July 4, 2011 - 8:31amThis Comment