Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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So i think i just had my period about 1 week early.. Could it be spotting?? I'm scared out of my mind right now please help! I dont know if it had to do with stress either because i've been stressing about thia whole situation since that day. Please help!
April 14, 2012 - 5:10amThis Comment
So susan or whoever that will answer this question, from your knowledge and honesty do you think I could have got pregnant by how I describe everything like what I was wearing and how the guy was...? from Dry-Humping ??? Pls answer back thank you...
March 29, 2012 - 4:42pmThis Comment
Hello, Okay I'm pregnant and I had dry-humped this guy with laced panties on AND I was on my period also with a tampoon in... But he did have his penis out BUT it was under his shirt, so when i was dry-humping I was rubbing on his shirt with his penis under it... But I'm not sure if it slip out of his shirt but i really doubt it... Bc I didn't see it... Untill later I got off I saw it out of his shirt, but I'm not sure if it was already out or he just moved his shirt:/// So anyways after my period ended I had sex with my boyfriend:/// I know I feel gross... That was 8 wks ago and that's how far along I am... I'm just freaking out bc of that! And I wanna stop worrying about what happened and know it's my boyfriends baby and not some guy I had dry-humped with a tampoon in... And I wanna note me and my boyfriend don't use condoms so he did cum in me some of the times. Thanks pls reply back ASAP!!!
March 28, 2012 - 3:47pmThis Comment
My boyfriend and I were dry humping with clothes on. He came in his underwear/shorts and none got on my shorts. He went and wiped himself and washed his hands with liquid soap and bar soap (well he said he did and I heard him but i just dont remember how long) and he dried them and changed his underwear/pants in that order. Then after maybe 10 or 15 minutes (don't know exact) we started dry humping again with pants on still and he slipped his hand down my panties and touched my vagina. It felt like the outer edge because I know I felt dry (his hand was dry too and he was even rubbing his hand all over the sheets and my shorts and stuff just before so I know they were dry too) and I squirmed when he did it and he quickly removed his hand so he never completely fingered me. It was maybe a second or two at most. I'm just worried that maybe when he cleaned himself he didn't get the semen completely off his hands or something. I'm a
March 26, 2012 - 12:31pmIttle paranoid. Please help. Also, my period was just 2-3 days before if that helps. Thanks..
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Hello, I used expired condoms,but I ejaculated outside and the condom was not broken, do I need to worry?
March 14, 2012 - 1:04amThis Comment
Reply to the last post please
March 12, 2012 - 8:19pmThis Comment
hello , i have a common question , i couldnt read all the replies , so posting here , me and my gf had protected sex , and i came outside with condom still on , can she be pregnant? the condom was not torn , and second thing , next day i tried penetrating her with my trackpant and underwear on and she has no clothes on , i still didnt cum , so how much are the chances of pregnancy if there was no direct contact and plus whenever i came , it was outside?
March 11, 2012 - 5:02pmThis Comment
Hi jpeace,
Thank you for your question. There is a HIGHLY unlikely chance that you will become pregnant. I hope this helps, so you can relax if you wanted a piece of mind, try a pregnancy test.
Missie
March 11, 2012 - 2:33pmThis Comment
Thanks, so there is a possibility that ican happen. Is it wwierd that igot my 'period' or bleed the next day.
March 12, 2012 - 10:33amThis Comment
And I'm a virgin, I was wet and he had precum on his boxers ......
March 11, 2012 - 7:37amThis Comment