Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi, i had sex with my boyfriend and i had my underwear on, he was naked and he ejaculated. Are there any chances of my getting pregnant?
September 3, 2012 - 9:46amThis Comment
Hi Maryann, i wrote too and posted on August 21, 2012 @ 5:15pm
so even if i had thing leggings and underwear and my partner had Jeans.... but he had NO UNDER BOTTOMS!!! that what freaks me out no one took any clothing off I'm just paranoid because we were on top of each other... and he did pre cum... i just double want to make sure that... about it...
AGAIN as...
i was wearing leggings, and my underwear and the guy i was with had jeans and NO underwear
August 24, 2012 - 10:21pmhe told me that he didn't ejaculate but he said he precum he stated that he can feel "moist" on his pants i was a little wet myself....
and then the next day the guy said that his jeans had a a little pre cum that penetrated thru his jeans OUTSIDE near the crouch area.. but i still had leggings and my underwear.. i just so worried this is a lesson for everybody thanks i just want to make sure if i should be worried about anything thing or any small concerns
is there any chance i should worry about getting pregnant???
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Hello Anonymous,
Penetration of the penis into the vagina, anus or mouth is considered sexual intercourse and not outercourse.
When semen comes in contact with a woman's genital area, there is a chance of conception or getting pregnant. For example, if the woman's underpants slip down and the semen is ejaculated on her genitals. Or if she is wearing a thong and the semen gets on her genital area.
Have I explained it for you ?
Maryann
August 22, 2012 - 5:16pmThis Comment
I dont understand what u guys mean by this....
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
so does that mean if semen did spilling thru the clothing there is a change of getting pregnant?????
August 21, 2012 - 5:25pmThis Comment
I DID WHAT THEY CALL DRY HUMPING .... i was wearing leggings, and my underwear and the guy i was with had jeans and NO underwear
August 21, 2012 - 5:15pmhe told me that he didn't ejaculate but he said he precum he stated that he can feel "moist" on his pants i was a little wet myself....
and then the next day the guy said that his jeans had a a little pre cum that penetrated thru his jeans near the crouch area.. but i still had leggings and my underwear.. i just so worried can some one give me honest advice
is there any chance i should worry about getting pregnant???
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Hello Anonymous,
There is no need to worry that you could have become pregnant during dry humping. The wetness that you experienced was your own vaginal lubrication caused by sexual stimulation. The sperm in your partner's precum could not swim through his jeans, past your underwear and leggings and into your vagina.
Maryann
August 22, 2012 - 5:07pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Sperm can survive outside of the body for only about 20 minutes to an hour. As soon as the semen is dry, the sperm is dead. Sperm in semen that is on the hand is washed away with soap and water.
Maryann
August 15, 2012 - 4:58pmThis Comment
Dear Maryann,
Please answer me because I spent the whole night crying. 2 months ago me and my ex boyfriend dry humped twice on a train the first one was he dry humped me full dressed from behind and he came. Second time was a few hours later at my house, we were dry humping for about 5 minutes full dressed I had skirt and a legging along with my underwear on and he had his jeans and boxer. somehow he toke his penis out and pulled my legging down so I was only with my underwear and it was soaking wet actually and he had nothing on at that moment. a few minutes later he pulled his self really fast and spilled cum on my thigh I felt that but am not sure if it was on my underwear too. the same night I went to the toilet and found little brownish reddish spotting on the toilet paper with no pain and I'm a virgin so I freaked out. a few days later I stated feeling cramps and my breast got sore really painful and tender tiredness and headache and also back pain saw a little light blood and my period disappeared, even tho I still feel it after two weeks I got my period. I was this whole year fat so I can't even see if am pregnant from my stomach and I can't do a test for some reasons. anyway its been the second month and I got my period regularly BUT!!! am still scared to death after watching that stupid show I didn't know I was pregnant and I'm regretting everything now and we broke up already so I don't want his child.
thanks for reading and I hope that you will answer me.
November 17, 2012 - 3:25pmRegards,
Lisa
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If i gave my boyfriend handjob while he fingered me but when he cummed it was only on him and my hand i washed my hand with water and soap and so did he. Later i actually used bathroom regularly could have sperm been on my hand or gotten in me? Also it your fingered one day and you washed your hands but next day your boyfriend fingered you again is his hands clean enough?
August 15, 2012 - 9:36amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
I am glad to hear that you are doing better and that you are talking with your mother. Sometimes, being able to share your feelings and get loving support is the best therapy.
One way to reduce your anxiety is through knowledge. The more you understand, the less you will fear.
Please take the time to visit the EmpowHER Sexual Health 101 page.
https://www.empowher.com/sexual-health-101
Take a look at this slide show to understand the facts and myths about sex.
https://www.empowher.com/pregnancy/content/am-i-pregnant-myths-and-facts...
Maryann
July 3, 2012 - 4:35pmThis Comment