Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Thank you ma'am for your kind reply. I really appreciate you kindness in educating many young girls and helping themm improve their health.
November 15, 2012 - 8:02pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
An erect penis cannot penetrate through cotton leggings, thus no chance of transmitting an STD or causing pregnancy, in case you were wondering.
Maryann
October 15, 2012 - 4:49pmThis Comment
Can an erect penis penetrate through cotton leggings? I know it's a very strange question but I wanted to know what the chances of getting an STD from this would be.
October 15, 2012 - 10:38amThis Comment
Hello bibi,
Your symptoms are probably all stress induced. You must work at relaxing and dispelling the notion that you are pregnant. Stressing out will only delay the start of your period, make you sick and negatively impact your school work.
Maryann
September 18, 2012 - 4:35pmThis Comment
Im also experienceing sore breast just today, I've even dreamt about it. I got it through my head that there was no chance of pregnancy thanks to you and this article but why is the cramping,headaches,nausea,sore of breast, happening ?? that won't let me be. I think im paranoid or just not in my right mind.
September 18, 2012 - 3:40pmThis Comment
Thank you so muchh Maryan,Im just freaking out because from just thinking of pregnancy has given me huge headaches that make dizzy and its so stressfull especially with school, ive been having cramps and the need to vomit but never do.Im guessing ITs due from the stress. I really hope this goes away and i start My period on its regular date. Thanks again ((: I appreciate that you take your time to answer .
September 17, 2012 - 6:44pmThis Comment
Hello bibi,
There is no need to be scared. What you saw was your own vaginal lubrication that was produced because you were sexually aroused.
Since you were both fully dressed, and sperm cannot penetrate fabric, there was no risk of pregnancy.
Maryann
September 17, 2012 - 6:10pmThis Comment
I need Your word to help me out. It was about a week ago that me and My boyfriend were making out,It looked like we were having sex but we never did im still a virgin, after tha I decided to sit on him sexually but during this whole time we were fully clothed. He had his boxer,gym shorts and jeans and i had on my underwear and jeans..after that i went to the batroom and saw a lot of white creamy stuff on my underwear and thought to myself,its normal I just got wet..than I got super scared and thought what if was sperm ! I just wiped it off but ever since than all i can think avout is That I might be pregnant! I'm so worried. And I feel so bad because ive never made out with a guy like that layin down or sat on him.please help!!
September 16, 2012 - 7:10pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Did you read the original SHARE or even one of the replies to this thread? No, you cannot get pregnant if you are wearing underwear, unless there was slippage of your undergarments or it was made of mesh fabric.
Maryann
September 3, 2012 - 5:37pmThis Comment
Thank u! :-)
September 3, 2012 - 7:54pmThis Comment