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10 Things You Should Know About Sex as You Age

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If you think you were at your sexual best in your 20s or 30s, you might want to think again. Your body may not be as young or as flexible as it used to be, but you may find that natural changes in your life as you get older can bring you closer to your partner.

You just may find that you enjoy your sex life more than you did when you were young.

1) Intimacy is ageless

There is no age limit that applies to wanting or needing to be intimate with another person. Intimacy includes much more than the act of having sex. It can also include kissing, cuddling, talking and touching, emotional connections and much more.

With or without sex, acts of intimacy can be more valuable as you get older and wiser. You may discover more about what makes you happy and what is really important to you and your partner.

2) Lifestyle changes can be a plus

As you get older, changes in your lifestyle can also contribute to increased opportunities for intimacy. Retirement, or less focus on climbing the ladder at work, can reduce stress and give you more time to spend together as a couple.

As children leave the nest, you may also find new opportunities for intimacy and sex, with fewer interruptions in the bedroom. Being able to sleep through the night without having to see to a child’s late night needs may also mean you’ll both have more energy and desire for sex.

3) Sex will be different

Some people worry that physical changes will make them less attractive or less able to “perform” in bed. If you compare your body at 50-plus to your body at 20, you’re probably right to think sex won’t be the same. But “different” does not have to mean “worse” when it comes to sex.

For some people, age also means loss, as partners leave a relationship or pass away. Entering into new relationships at an older age can mean new opportunities to redefine your sexual life. And it can lead to new expectations on both sides about what a fulfilling relationship means.

4) Always practice safe sex

Just because you can no longer get pregnant does not mean you are “safe” when it comes to having sex.

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