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Foreplay: It's Important

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Do you want to have better sex? Then do not leave out the foreplay. It is not just some precursor to sex or something to ready your partner for sex. Foreplay is a critical part of the lovemaking experience.

Why is foreplay so important? It builds incredibly strong bonds that work to strengthen couples’ intimacy. For one thing, men who enjoy and practice foreplay often find their partners not only enjoy sexual intercourse more, but their partners reach orgasm more easily. Most women agree good sexual encounters only begin with foreplay. They also list a lack of it as causing the inability to reach orgasm. It allows them enjoy sex more by removing distractions, stresses and interruptions. Many sex experts say there is no such thing as spending too much time on foreplay.

Foreplay is everything that comes prior to intercourse. That includes a wide range of activities, including hugging, fondling, undressing, kissing, petting and oral sex. It is not about pressing the right buttons in the right order at the right time. It is about understanding what gets your partner hot and delivering the things that make her experience intense pleasure. The key is to connect with your partner for a significant amount of time before sex.

Every woman is different. Some enjoy being kissed all over their body while others respond best to oral stimulation. There are many ways to engage in foreplay, but one thing is certain, for women, it begins in her head.
Being intimate is not always about being sexual. Conversation is a great way to begin foreplay. Women like it when their partners share things they don’t normally tell others. They like to feel appreciated. And heck, they like to feel sexy too. Compliment them on their appearance. Tell them how much they turn you on and so forth. This will not only boost most women’s confidence levels but add a level of excitement.

Foreplay is also the perfect time to learn what your partner likes and what she needs to be fully stimulated. Just remember, foreplay should not be rushed. It is supposed to be fun. The longer and slower it is, the better. Don't be shy during foreplay. Ask for and give feedback.

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