As the number of Americans suffering with Alzheimer's disease or other forms of dementia increases, those who are responsible for making choices for loved ones all struggle with difficult decisions.
These are a few of the tough situations many caregivers must face:
1) Making decisions your loved one is against
As children, we are wired to try and obey our parents. When our parents refuse our suggestions or outright get angry at any discussion of what we think is best for them, it is very difficult to go against their wishes — even though we have their best interests in mind.
Insisting that our family member needs help at home, should stop driving, or should not cook unless someone is close by, can be met with arguments and indignation that we think our loved one has become feeble or doddery.
It's important to keep in mind that your intention is to protect your loved one. Repeat this to yourself regularly.
Remind yourself that you have tried to allow the person to make independent decisions for as long as you thought they could. And remember, you are not alone in this struggle.
Every caregiver must make decisions based on the changing needs of the family member, even though it is difficult.
2) Providing care for a loved one with Alzheimer's
The decision as to where to care for a loved one with Alzheimers is tempered by finances, what type of care is needed, and what type of care you can personally provide.
Some people feel that going to a nursing home or long-term care facility is never a choice while others really are unable, for a variety of reasons, to provide care for a loved one at home. There is no right or wrong decision. You have to make the one that fits your entire picture.
Alzheimer's patients need constant monitoring and as the disease progresses, patients may need more professional care which nurses and other health care providers are more able to provide.
Even if you start out by hoping to keep a loved one at home, check out facilities that are close by to see what type of care they provide.
THE BLOG: 3 Controversial Decisions Alzheimer’s Caregivers Must Face. Huffington Post.com. Retrieved Nov. 20, 2016.
Respite Care. Finding and Choosing Respite Services. Help.org. Retrieved Nov. 20, 2016.