In a new relationship, but not having much sex. Is something wrong?

By Tris L July 13, 2009 - 6:08pm

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I have been dating this really great guy for about 3 and a half months now. In january of this year we were introduced to each other by a married couple that we both know (he's friends with the husband, I, the wife.) We went on multiple double dates with this couple until he got my phone number, then we started going out just the two of us. Ever since he got my phone number (this was the beginning of April) we have spent every weekend together. I should point out that we can only really see each other on the weekends due to conflicting schedules, he works 3rd shift and I work 1st shift. We had sex for the first time about 2 months ago and it is great! When I started dating again after my last relationship I had decided I wanted to date someone a little older than me, and now I know why that is. We get along really great, and he is so much more on my maturity level than any of the previous guys I have dated. Now here is the problem that I am having. I think that maybe the first two weekends after we started having sex we did it 2 or 3 times over the course of the weekend, but since then it has been only once during the weekend. Keep in mind that I am generally at his house Saturday night and Sunday night, and I do sleep at his house so we are usually together for at least 2 full days, then we go all week without seeing each other. Now this last weekend we didn't have sex at all which is why I am here, I'm quite concerned and frustrated. I did talk to him about it once because I couldn't get the situation off my mind and he said "I don't feel like we need to be having sex every minute that we are together." I also expressed my feelings of being worried that it was me and he assured me that it is not me. I'm not some kind of raging sexaholic, but seeing how this is still very new to both of us and we can see each other only a limited amount of time, I am confused as to what is going on here. Should I be so worried about this? I would really appreciate any advice that anyone can give me. Thanks.