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21 with baby and no sex drive... what do i do?

By Anonymous July 16, 2010 - 10:25pm
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My boyfriend and I of 3 1/2 yrs had a baby boy 6 months ago, so I'm tired all the time, and with everything going on the last thing on my mind is sex. But to be completely honest, its been like this for about 2 years. It takes me a while to get into the mood when he is trying to get me arouses, and I just don't find myself sexually stimulated by him anymore. I have never been able to have an orgasm during actual intercourse as well. He feels like we should end the relationship because I'm always coming up with excuses for not wanting to have sex. I'm on the iud mirena as well. What should I do?

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Hi Anonymous

This is something that soooo many women can relate to. My first question is whether you have discussed this with your health care provider? It is possible that you have a hormonal or other issue, or even a low level depression. Ruling out something physical or diagnosable is the first step, I think.

If you want to stay together, ask your boyfriend for some time while you try to sort this out. See your health care provider, and that may help you figure out what is going on. If there are no health issues, you can go from there with why you have a low libido, whether it is fatigue, whether that's just how you are made, or if something else is going on with you or the relationship.

But first things first: Be sure you are healthy. If we can help further, let us know.

Good luck to you.

July 18, 2010 - 9:07am
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