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about first time having the experience of sex

By Anonymous August 24, 2015 - 1:08am
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It's very very painful for me while having first sex & its like dying pain, I couldn't do it further. I'm scared to have sex. My partner still unable enter his penis into my vagina because of my heavy pain. So how can we have safe sex without much pain? Is it possible that his penis enter into my vagina within a day & how much time it will take? How many hours I'm bleeding once completion of first sex? What is the right sex positions? Still that remains after completion of first sex?
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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER and thank you for seeking our advice regarding your painful experience with first time intercourse.

Painful intercourse can occur for a variety of reasons, ranging from structural problems to psychological concerns. If you experience recurrent pain during sex, talk to your doctor.

Pain during penetration may be associated with a range of factors, including insufficient lubrication. This is often the result of not enough foreplay. An infection in your genital area or urinary tract can cause painful intercourse. Involuntary spasms of the muscles of the vaginal wall , which is called vaginismus, can make attempts at penetration very painful.

Emotions are deeply intertwined with sexual activity and may play a role in any type of sexual pain.

Anxiety, depression, concerns about your physical appearance, fear of intimacy or relationship problems can contribute to a low level of arousal and a resulting discomfort or pain.
Increased levels of stress in your life can cause your pelvic floor muscles tend to tighten. This can contribute to pain during intercourse.

If you experience sharp pain during thrusting, the penis may be striking your cervix or stressing the pelvic floor muscles, causing aching or cramping pain. Changing positions may help. You can try being on top of your partner during sex. Women usually have more control in this position, so you may be able to regulate penetration to a depth that feels good to you.

Talk about what feels good and what doesn't. If you need your partner to go slow, say so.
Longer foreplay can help stimulate your natural lubrication. And you may reduce pain by delaying penetration until you feel fully aroused.
Consider using a lubricant. It can make intercourse more comfortable for you.

The bleeding is most likely the result of a tearing of your hymen, which is a thin membrane that covers the opening of the vagina. Normally, it is slight bleeding that goes away on its own.

Hope this information is helpful to you.

August 24, 2015 - 8:29am
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