I'm 23 (F) and have never had sex. I have a long term boyfriend (28) who is also a virgin. We don't plan to have sex just yet (this is a faith-based choice we're both content with and it's sort of irrelevant except as background) but we do make out and touch each other a bit through clothes and get really aroused from it, and we both enjoy this a lot and do it nearly every time we see each other. I can get very sexually aroused and wet from these times with him, however if I try to masturbate at all, even shortly afterwards while I'm still on a high, I get no pleasure from it at all. Even if I think about what my boyfriend and I were doing, or try to copy some of the things he was doing to me, it doesn't feel good, not even close to how good it feels when he's there. I've never orgasmed from masturbation, only ever in my sleep, usually from having erotic dreams about having sex with my boyfriend.
Is it possible for some people to enjoy partner sex and get orgasms from it it but NOT enjoy/get off from masturbating? (I seem to only hear of people having this problem the other way round, which I don't understand at all.) If it's not possible, how can I force myself to enjoy masturbating and not just resent it when I try, so it doesn't ruin sex for me?
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