It's only been 6 months and I keep catching my boyfriend talking to other girls, well in the beginning until one I looked through his emails and found emails answering ads on craigslist for m2m sex. I honestly couldn't even believe it. I am 24 and he is 21, and I confronted him asking if he had anything to tell me about himself, anything I should know about him. It didn't take long for him to tell me about it, but after that not much more. He told me that he never acted on it and he never met anyone from the site. And I believed him and I let it go . that was 3 months ago. Well just 2 weeks ago I caught him messaging a guy on fb. He deleted the messaged quickly. I asked him why he felt the need to hide it from me, if he is only a friend. I seen the name of the guy and I messaged him. I asked him if he was talking or sexting with my bf, and the other guy just blew up and start calling me names, and never said much of anything. I told my bf and he told me that yes he was talking to him sexually and that was it. He said that when he first moved here which was a year and a half ago, he had sex with this guy. Well just a few days ago this guy my bf was talking to messaged me saying that yes he f******d my bf and that it was recent. He even had a screenshot of my bf saying he was coming in 10 min. I confronted my bf and he said that he never even showed up and that he had the urge but he would never cheat on me because he "loves me". I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I love him, and I only think its because he was my first and I fell so hard for him. Pls I need advice. I can't talk to anybody about this because he doesn't want people to know. I don't know I've soo stressed and depressed.
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I have the same problem he continues to chat and gay porn but says he loves me and has never acted on it but also says he will stop and says he has no self control about it so how do I know he wont cheat how long before he does meet him. Please help
July 31, 2015 - 9:53amThis Comment
Thanks, for you're advice.
July 9, 2015 - 9:03pmThis Comment
Hello Mariaann89,
Welcome to the EmpowHER community. Thank you for reaching out to us for support and advice.
I can appreciate that this young man is your first boyfriend and that you have strong feelings for him. But, by his actions, he has made it clear that he prefers men. Nothing you can do will change his sexual orientation. As hard as it may be for you, you have to accept this.
Regards,
July 9, 2015 - 2:44pmMaryann
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