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By Anonymous October 16, 2010 - 6:42pm
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I have a friend who is a male to female.She keeps procrastinating weather she want to go through the transition.what should i tell her?

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Hi Anon

Thanks for your question and for looking out for your friend!

As a friend, you must not advise her either way. This is a huge (and often irreversible) procedure that is completely life altering. Rarely do people go back (but it has happened) and the re-transition is even harder.

She needs to come to this decision herself but if she is making the full transition in the United States, she will also have to take mandatory and extensive psychological testing and live for approximately one year (again mandatory) as a 100% female (all aspects) before surgery will even be considered.

Support her, listen to her and be there for her, but don't give her your opinion on whether she should make the complete transition. This is a dangerous thing to do and it's something only she can decide, along with her team of doctors/counselors.

Of course, if you are also female, you can give her lots of tips on what it's like to be a woman - from societal/employment/legal/cultural points of view as well as clothes, makeup, dating etc.

Thank you again for your support of your friend. Full transitions are not only physically difficult but emotionally too.

I also think she should spend time with other transgendered people (M to F) and she can start by contacting GLADD and then finding local support. They have a lot of resources for her: http://www.glaad.org/

I wish her the best and let us know if we can help you/her more!

October 17, 2010 - 8:22am
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