Hi I am a 30 year old guy, my girlfiend is 28 and we've been going out for just over a year now. For the first 6 months, we only used to see eachother every 3 - 4 weeks and had great sex and a lot of it but since we moved in with eachother about 4 months ago our sex life has drastically changed and now we only have sex once or twice a month. This is not enough for me and one of the reasons I moved up to be with her was so we could have a normal intimate relationship. She doesn't want me anywhere near her in that sense especially if I try to kiss her or initiate anything. She isn't a touchy - feely type and hasn't been like that from day one so I've got used to that but what is really starting to depress me and makes me think I'm not good enough for her is that she tells me she's always had a high sex drive with previous boyfriends and has been often told it's too high. I don't understand why things are different with me.
She did have an abortion about 6 months ago and although this was a mutual decision I think she still blames me for not supporting her enough even though I was there with her every step of the way. She did have councelling but only one session and I think she may have needed more but she refused to have any more.
She likes me giving her massages and stoking her but that's pretty much it - if I try anything else she shouts at me for pushing her. I've learnt to totally back off and although this has been hard I'm willing to do this as I really love her and I am sure she feels the same way about me. We've talked about it and she does have a lot on her mind at the moment but I am worried there is always going to be a reason for us not having a healhty sex life. I wouldn't cheat on her and I do want to spend the rest of my life with her but this this is silently destroying my self-esteem and confidence.
I don't know what else to do? Will things get better in the longterm? Please help!
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