Hi i am engaged and we currently had some family issues with my partner and now our families think we broke up, however, were still together. its been a year and we both have been working everyday and see each other secretly, he has been distanced from the idea of marriage and whenever i bring up the topic about fixing the issues between and the families he just says its not the time yet and we need time for everything to settle down. I had applied for a job for cabin crew in another country and recently been accepted and i am moving in 3 weeks. ive told him that ill be going because of him not wanting to fix anything and that if he wanted me to stay he would do things. however he hasnt done anything and acts as if i will not leave and move to another country. i told him i am upset about leaving and that i dont want to lose him, he said to me why do you think your going to lose me, maybe this is what we need, we need a gap to make our relationship stronger, he just recently he had told me that he doesnt think i will be going but at the same time if i do go he thinks it will be better for our relationship to get strong. i told him distance might change us and we might get cold towards each other, however he says that we will talk all the time and after 6 months to a year i can come back to our country and speak with our parents and show them that were still together and want to get serious. i am feeling very upset about going, i feel like it will be good and that we will miss each other, at the same time i think in the end im going to be the one thats going to lose because if we did have a fight about something he will turn around and say ''ýou chose to leave me and move to another country instead of staying and waiting for me to fix things''. which is true... i feel like if i really love him i should stay and wait... what can i do? i dont want to lose him.
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