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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. At first for protection we used condoms but he couldn't stay hard with one on. After that we tried anal instead but I really don't enjoy that at all. So I went on birth control. Now most of the time it's not hard for him to get an erection, he just has trouble sustaining it. It also takes him a reallly long time to come. Is there anything I can do to help him?
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healthystrokes.com he might have something called tms
March 11, 2009 - 10:44amThis Comment
hes 16 and he definitely seems very happy all the time. Hes not on any medication at all.
March 1, 2009 - 8:37pmThis Comment
My boyfriend is having the same problem and he is just two years older than yours. I thought that maybe he was intimidated because I'm more experienced than him being a few years older than he is and all. So the whole stress and anxiety thing makes sense. I definately agree with going back to the basics. My boyfriend and I have done that for the past few weeks now so when we decide to become "active" again maybe things will be better.
March 3, 2009 - 7:11pmThis Comment
Have you read any of the links I provided above? Tell me what you think about that information.
What about what Alysia mentioned: not having intercourse for a while, and going back to the basics: cuddling, kissing, making out, teasing, etc, etc. Play a game with seeing how aroused you can make each other without having intercourse. It could help you "explore" each other, it is very intimate and there is no performance anxiety/pressure.
Let us know what you think of these ideas...what have you tried? Has he talked with you about this?
March 1, 2009 - 9:17pmThis Comment
I dated a guy who had this problem when he was depressed. He went to a psychiatrist and started taking medication, and that helped a lot. If there's a chance your boyfriend could be struggling with undiagnosed depression, he should look into counseling/medication. That being said, if he's already on some type of medication (for anything, not just depression), that could be causing the sexual side effects. He should talk to a doctor, for sure. There's usually a way around these negative side effects, and this could really put a damper on his self esteem, and your relationship.
March 1, 2009 - 10:41amThis Comment
I am wondering what his age is as well.
Here are some helpful Q&A's from The Kinsey Institute:
March 1, 2009 - 8:42am- How Can I Keep My Erection with a Condom?
- Can Stress Really Effect a Man's Erection?
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It sounds like he should see a urologist. How old is he?
February 27, 2009 - 9:21amThis Comment
Relax, you two might be experiencing a lot of anxiety about performance. Foreplay, eliminating any distractions, learning what you each like helps your lovemaking more enjoyable.
February 26, 2009 - 9:10pmThis Comment