how can a woman be disflower without feeling much pain?

Hi babajide,
By the term "disflower", I assume you are asking how you a woman can have sexual intercourse and not experience pain in her vagina?

Most women do not feel pain during first intercourse; the feeling might be more of discomfort if anything. The vagina is made of very stretchy tissues, and if you think of childbirth...the vagina can accommodate very large objects passing through (with some preparation), so a man's penis is (thankfully) nothing compared to the size of a newborn's head and shoulders!

Women who have difficulty with the sensation of a penis entering the vagina may need to try other techniques first, including their partner inserting one finger, then two fingers, until this is comfortable.

The most important reasons that a woman would not feel pain include that she is mentally ready to have sex (and this translates into her body being relaxed and not tensed, which could lead to pain), as well as physically ready to have sex (this translates to her body being adequately self-lubricated...a very important factor in sex feeling pleasurable instead of dry and hurtful).

Does this answer your question?