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I am 3 months pregnant. My husband doesnt even hug or kiss, but takes good care of me.

By September 19, 2011 - 10:45pm
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I am a working lady. The first trimester was a little too much for us to handle as I had severe nausea. My husband took good care of me, more than a father can do. Whatever I asked for eating he would immediately get it from outside or cook it by himself, as the desire to eat was almost negligible in me. Due to nausea, I am on leave. And we share a long distance relationship, where we used to meet once a month, or so, as he has to take care of his ancestral property, which is away from my workplace (14 hours journey). Now, due to my pregnancy and severe nausea he is held up for almost 3 months (home arrest), leaving all his other tasks behind.

Now-a-days I have a strong urge to be hugged and kissed, even if i pull my husband's hand and try to get me a hug, it does not stay even for 30 seconds. I do not know, why. There is no physical contact at all. I am the one who keeps hugging him, kissing him; but he would not respond to those as well; but do cook for me, get me everything i need. Also, my parents like him very much because he is a very understanding and caring person, even towards them. Now, I am confused; such a nice person, why is he keeping distance from me? I seek your help, yesterday from 3:30am to 6:00am I was unable to sleep. Morning he asks me, what happened, do you have stomach ache or what, why are you not getting sleep. I could not sleep due to these thoughts, he very well understands, I believe, but pretends as if nothing happened between us.

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Hi Thots,

I'm sorry you feel as though your husband is neglecting you in affection. While I do understand that you're pregnant, not feeling well, and just want a hug and a kiss is it possible that perhaps your husband may be feeling a bit overwhelmed by the fact that he hasn't been able to work and is tending to your every need without complaints? A lot of men are not overly affectionate, particularly under stress so cut him some slack and take his quick pecks for now. Once everything is settled and his routine becomes much more familiar to him, if this continues then talk to him. As for now, he seems to be doing all the right things to make sure that you and his little one are well taken care of.

Best Wishes,


September 20, 2011 - 5:30am
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Thank you, Rosa. You sound absolutely right. Probably, I need to give him some more time. I shall.

September 20, 2011 - 10:44pm

Hi thots,
I am sure your husband means well. Currently, because of professional and personal reasons, next few months I guess you can say I am at house arrest too and it can be really frustrating and makes one feel that there is life is at a standstill. My intuition says that you should talk to him about it first. I am sure he does not mean it since his actions speak otherwise but he must be stressed since he cannot take care of his other responsibilities. Best of luck!

September 20, 2011 - 5:10am
(reply to anonymos1486)

Hi Friend, thank you for these encouraging words. I am able to take it in a better way. True, I need to talk to him. I shall talk to him when I can control my emotions better, else I would end up crying.

September 20, 2011 - 10:39pm
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