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I don't know how to get a divorce!

By January 20, 2011 - 5:09am
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Please help..... I've been married for over 15yrs and my husband wants a divorce! He is a mean, spiteful person, that will stop at nothing to win no matter the lengths he must goto to do so. He's extremely competitive,& cruel! We've ben needing to divorce for years, but we have a 14yr old son, which I've stayed for, only to find he wants to go live with his father because he thinks his father will buy him things! Regardless, he's a bad alcoholic but very, very successful (idk how) at his job! He makes roughly $ 120k annually yet, he's a control freak, so we get nothing! I've never had access to "his" money, I'm not on his banking/checking/atm/credit cards, etc. I used to be an arrange, successful person too but he's extremely verbally, impartially, psychologically abusive & sometimes slightly physically abusive..... He threatens me he will stop at nothing to hurt meer and scares me promising to see me get nothing! I wad in a bad car accident that left me disabled& unable to work yet, he tells me everyday,"you want/ need toothpaste, etc.,?"....go get you a job and pay for it!! Idk what he's doing besides drinking, but we're always broke, bills overdue, rent never paid, etc. . I think maybe strip clubs, gambling, bit I can't catch him or prove it I'm too old to go chasing him around trying to catch him! I am scared he will go get a high priced attorney (he had once before)& screw me and I don't have access to any money to fight back. I am nothing now after the damage he's done to me...we went through hurricane katrina together & lost everything but that was nothing compared to what he's taken from me. He's striped me of all my self-esteem, self-worth, etc.! Please help.. As I have NO FAMILY, NO FRIENDS,& HE TAKES ADVANTAGE OF THAT KNOWLEDGE.MY FAMILY LEFT AS THEY CANNOT STAND US AND BEING AROUND US. I NEED SOME ADVICE there has to be help out there everyone says there utas but no one helps. I've been diagnosed bi-polar (which he plans, to use against me too) but I feel if not for him & rhee abuse, I'd be fine! I live in Misissippi will that help or hurt?......I beg of y'all pls help me I have no one to return to.

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I'm sorry you are dealing with such a mean-spirited person. But there is always a way out-- are you afraid that he will leave you with nothing? Losing your son? Not having a job?

I know you don't have the means to hire an attorney, but I looked some up to see if there were any that would at least give you some legal aid and information.

775 North President Street, Suite 300

Tel: 601 - 944 - 0765

I hope this helps, if it doesn't just let me know and we will keep searching.

January 20, 2011 - 7:02am
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