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I don't seem to orgasm, why?

By May 27, 2016 - 5:19pm
 
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It's embarrassing to admit but I masturbate oftentimes, however I never seem to get the tingly sensation, the blurred vision, and etc. that a lot of women seem to talk about when they do orgasm.

I don't get those sensations and i'm quite disappointed. The feeling to pee also happens to me when I stimulate my g-spot but I actually end up "peeing" and If I try to stimulate my g-spot again, not so long after that, I end up "peeing" again. I'm not sure if that's what they refer to as squirting, if that's an orgasm, or if it's really urine. I can't tell. I feel that I'm not getting the most out of my masturbation because I'm too concerned about reaching an orgasm more than I am enjoying what I'm doing, if that makes any sense. I'm quite confused and disappointed, so if anyone can clarify or give an idea of why I am not feeling those intense sensations a lot of women feel, and what the "peeing" truly stands for, that would be great.

Thank you so much!

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HERWriter Guide

Hi SunniQ

Thanks for your post!

Masturbation should not be embarrassing - I assume you are young and exploring sexuality. With orgasm, sometimes it takes time.

Nobody can say why you (in particular) can't orgasm, that's probably both a psychological and physical thing pertaining to your personally.

We have an article on this very topic that could answer many of your questions - you can read it here: http://www.empowher.com/female-sexual-dysfunction/content/cant-orgasm-anorgasmia-advocacy-sheet-0

Sometimes when women are about to orgasm they have a sensation they want to pee. Maybe you are having an orgasm. All women are different, not all are screaming and rolling around and the blurred vision is a new one to me. So try not to compare yourself to anything you read on the Internet.

Best,
Susan

May 28, 2016 - 6:35am
(reply to Susan Cody)

Thanks Susan!

Sometimes I do end up peeing during the masturbation though. At least I assume that it is pee. The color is like water however and the scent isn't like urine. But it's not like "runny milk" as some people suggested a squirt to be. But what exactly is squirting and what shoul be expected to excrete during squirting?

I find that rubbing on my clitoris seems more intense and my muscles actually tighten and i get extremely exhausted after. It seems to be more intense than when i insert in my vagina. That could have been an orgasm but I'm worried that during intercourse with my partner, i wouldn't be able to orgasm when he inserts his inside of mine.

May 29, 2016 - 5:54pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to SunniQ)

Hi again

You sound normal. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, not vaginal sex.

Best,
Susan

May 30, 2016 - 7:27am
(reply to Susan Cody)

Thanks Susan!

Sometimes I do end up peeing during the masturbation though. At least I assume that it is pee. The color is like water however and the scent isn't like urine. But it's not like "runny milk" as some people suggested a squirt to be. But what exactly is squirting and what shoul be expected to excrete during squirting?

I find that rubbing on my clitoris seems more intense and my muscles actually tighten and i get extremely exhausted after. It seems to be more intense than when i insert in my vagina. That could have been an orgasm but I'm worried that during intercourse with my partner, i wouldn't be able to orgasm when he inserts his inside of mine.

May 29, 2016 - 5:52pm
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