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It's really hard for me to climax, Is something wrong with me?

By September 29, 2011 - 12:28pm
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Hi Lyennel,
No, there is nothing wrong with you. Janice B. Swanson, Psy.D.of the Mayo Clinic has this to say, "Although some women can reach orgasm during intercourse, many women find it easier and actually prefer to achieve orgasm through oral or manual stimulation of the clitoris. Female anatomy makes it more difficult to be stimulated to orgasm by intercourse than does the male anatomy. These differences between men and women with regard to orgasm often lead to expectations and misinterpretation of meaning associated with response during intercourse.
The focus on "achieving" orgasm and "working" at it are likely to lead to distress and inhibit you and your husband from just letting go and enjoying the pleasure of sexual arousal and activity. Focus on your thoughts and feelings rather than placing emphasis on the act itself.
One of the major difficulties couples experience is identifying what is mutually desired from sexual activity and communicating effectively with each other. It's important that you discuss your differences and learn from each other your desires and expectations, to alleviate concerns.
If this continues to be a problem in your marriage, you and your husband may consider seeking professional help to address it, such as through a
marital or sex therapist."
I hope this is helpful and makes you feel better about yourself,

September 29, 2011 - 2:42pm
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you Maryann. This article was extremely helpful.
Thank you. It did make me feel better about myself

September 29, 2011 - 2:52pm
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