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My boyfriend of 4 years does not feel like sex anymore

By June 8, 2011 - 9:52pm
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My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years this june. Our relationship has had ups and downs and we have been through his father's death and his parents divorce, as well as my struggles. I have lived with my boyfriend and his family on and off since i was 19. i am 23 now. My boyfriend hasnt worked since october of 2008 and alot of friends ask why im still with him, but that isnt the point. My questions is, why after all this time together we stopped having sex? its been 2 months now. i know my boyfriend is faithful to me 100%, its almost unbearable this lack of sex. the doctor diagnosed him with low testosterone which im sure is part of the problem, but where do i go? where do i turn? I need advice!

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Hi In_between87,

I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately, if your boyfriend has a low testosterone level and has had many unfortunate circumstances, sex may be the last thing on his mind. The only advice I can offer to you is to be supportive, don't push the sex subject too much--after all, you already know why he isn't having sex, and if you really love him, sit this one out with him while slowly trying to uplift his spirits with activities you can both do together. If he's been given any medication ensure that he takes it as indicated.
As far as your needs, you can help ease this by pleasing yourself for a while in the meantime-- love prevails in situations like this so if you do love your boyfriend, you will support him and love him through this.

All the best,


June 9, 2011 - 6:24am
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Anonymous (reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Thanks so much rosa. i feel like you put things in perspective for me. i appreciate it. <3

June 9, 2011 - 10:36am
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