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My boyfriend doesn't have sex with me anymore. Why?

By May 11, 2012 - 12:25pm
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My Boyfriend and I are 17. we've been dating for a year and we never have sex anymore. At the beginning that all he wanted to do, now we only have sex maybe once or twice a month. I know for a fact he 's not cheating on me because he's always with me. He was my neighbor and best friend for 9 years before we started dating. I know he would never do anything to hurt me either. I've tried talking to him about it before but he always said he didn't want to get me pregnant even though I was on the pill but he was convinced it would fail. He also said he didn't want our relationship to be solely based on sex and its not. now I'm on depo and he said he start having sex with me more but I haven't seen any improvement in the past month. It hurts me and sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough but he says that's not the case. could there be an explanation to why hes doing this? and could there be anything I could do to make him wanna have sex more?

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Hi Alexandria

Thanks for your post - your question is a very common one here on EmpowHER.

Having sex doesn't mean that your relationship is all about sex. There is a happy medium. It sounds like he may be looking for a reason not to have sex.

He may not be interested in having a long term relationship anymore (you are both very young) but there is an explanation - but it's one he has to give to you. He does know what's going on but he's choosing not to tell you and you do have the right to know.

You need to ask him what's going on - if he makes excuses, or denies anything but still won't have sex, it might be time to move on - he may not want to talk with you but his actions speak volumes.



May 11, 2012 - 12:37pm

didnt want our relationship to be based on sex*

May 11, 2012 - 12:27pm
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