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my boyfriend dont want sex with me.

By Anonymous July 14, 2011 - 12:39am
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Me n my boyfriend have been together 2yrs n he has been sexual textin other women, I have tried to ask him why he does it n all he says is its the thrill of the chase. Our sex life is none existent. I have tried every thing from playing with him to being the texiee n textin dirty but it don't work. He says its not right talking dirty when your in love. What can I do? Please help

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Hi Anon,

I'm sorry you have such an insensitive boyfriend. His comments to you do not make sense at all-- to say that he likes the thrill of the chase and then say that when you are in love you don't talk dirty to someone is an oxymoron. He does not know what love is if he tells you that he loves you and then turns around an blatantly disrespects you by "sexting" other women and saying he likes the chase. I don't usually say this to anyone who posts for advice on their relationships but dump this loser and move on. You are far better than anyone telling you that they enjoy the chase of sending sexual text messages to other women and that is isn't ok to talk dirty to them if you're in love (it's perfectly fine and normal to talk dirty to your boyfriend/husband/lover).

Wishing you happiness,


July 14, 2011 - 7:20am
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Anonymous (reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)


Thank you for your comment i just wish i could do that but i love him alot n stand to loose alot too, i am stuck in the middle.
I am feeling so low at the min we havent had sex for 3 months n he just doesnt want to . I love talking dirty over text to him but i just dont get a response anymore from him.



July 15, 2011 - 1:30am
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Hi Anon,

I know-- and I'm sorry for the tough love. I can tell that you do love him but you have to love yourself more. What is it that you stand to lose? Do you see yourself with this guy for the rest of your life? Is this what you want it to be like? There are many things that you should be taking into consideration. You sound like you're young and have a long bright future to look forward to. Sometimes it takes more courage to leave someone than it does to stay with them. Sit down for a minute and think of the pros and cons of your relationship. What means more to you? Being with someone who you have been accustomed to? Or having to work a little harder and ultimately being happy whether it is by yourself or with someone who truly values you?

Best Wishes,


July 15, 2011 - 8:35am
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