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ask: my guy says he would rather watch porn and masterbate than have sex with me!!!Iam so livid..I have just about had it with him rubbing one out in the garage instead of making love to me!!!

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I have been with my guy for 2 years.When we first got together we had the most amazing time in bed.Iam 6 months pregnant and we havent had sex in almost 2 months.Iam normally a very sexual person, so obviously Iam not very happy about it.I have caught him looking at slutty, naked, porn at least a dozen times...It usually is late at night I wake up he isn't in bed he is on the sofa, or in the garage watching porn, or he waits till I leave the house..and It pisses me off so much because he knows I want sex...he tells me that its not me its him!!!and that he just doesnt feel like being sexual or emotional w I th me but he looks at the girls naked and being sluts because he likes the eye candy, and he likes to masterbate to them..iam so pissed off he says he loves me but it really feels like iam being used...please help.iam normally very sure of myself and have good self esteem but this has really been on my mind.

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pandagirl

I had the same problem. But I think after getting super mad n basically showing him its the same as cheating. I think hes finally stopped, at least I hope so because ive seen no evidence of that behavior. Im im like 007 ive looked and searched high n low. But he rarely has sex with me. And thats been my problem now. N I know guys can't go without. So im wondering y am I not getting ne. But maybe we can help each other out. As far as his porn problem u need to get up in that boy face and tell him how looking and getting off to something other than u is cheating. And if u have to pull the well If he won't handle his business than hes out and ull find someone who can. But id use that as a last resort. And if he says go ahead while hes at work id throw his stuff out so fast and change all lock. And he tries to pled his case tell him to tell it to that hussys he watches.

May 27, 2014 - 2:45pm
pandagirl (reply to pandagirl)

And if u go through with the threat which u might have to cause u have to show him u mean business. N if he still does it. Throw his sorry butt to the curb. Cuz he wont ever stop . Id like to c how porn keeps him warm at night lol. Dont worry ur find an even better guy that'll do u so good cuz ur worth it. Ur better than a fake bimbo.

May 27, 2014 - 2:56pm
pandagirl (reply to pandagirl)

Oh and threaten him with if I catch u doing that crap again ur waking up with icyhot on ur junk. Lol

May 27, 2014 - 2:48pm
Maryann Gromisch RN Guide

Hello Anonymous,

You are obviously very upset and frustrated with your sexual relationship with your partner. Have you tried to calmly discuss this matter with him?

If you have not had the conversation, then, I think that would be a good place to start. Approach him calmly and try very hard to keep your emotions in check.
Try not to accuse but share how you are feeling.Allow him to talk without interrupting and be prepare to hear things that you may not want to hear.

Regards,
Maryann

January 15, 2014 - 6:14pm
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