I am unhappy that my husband doesn't like the way I look. What I mean is he doesn't like my body type, he doesn't like the size of my nipples - he has a list. He said he thinks my face isn't unpleasant. I've been married to him for eleven years. He isn't mean; he's just very convinced that I do not fit the criteria that is required to be a good looking woman.
He responds sexually, but I find his attitude toward the way I look a turn off. He likes the way he looks and he is very comfortable in his own body.
I got breast implants nine years ago, frankly to please him, but still he said I don't fit the bill. I am in good health, a size 12. I'm almost 5'7". I have gained weight since going through menopause. I think I weigh around 155lbs. I usually weigh 128 lbs. He thought I was too fat at 128 lbs; he has told me just not to gain anymore or he'll leave.
I believe he loves me. He calls his assessment of my body "reality." He says he loves me for who I am, not for my body. I have gone from really liking sex to feeling ashamed of my body, I don't want to take off my clothes.
Any suggestions? I am trying to lose the weight and firm up, but it's a slow process.
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