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Is my sexual drive really that high? My boyfriend says he cant keep up?

By January 9, 2012 - 3:50pm
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I am in a relationship of a year. Sex was great the first the frist few months. Then he asked me to slow down because he could not keep up with me. I guess I must be in my sexual prime. I am 41 he is 42. So we cut back, and back, and back... I know he loves me.. I know he is not cheating on me because like you we do everything together. I am lucky to get it once a week. He told me that he does not get the same connection from having sex like I believe most women do. When I asked him then how does he get it he told me by cudding, playing, making me laugh, smile and treating me like he does.. Which is awesome. He is so respectful and caring. He told me he could go a week a month without sex and he would be fine. I was shocked of course. I really dont want to go that long with out and of course me taking care of myself is not the same. Anyways I was just wondering if you have and suggestions. You know people tell you to spice it up, but when you are always rejected it is not easy. Look forward to hearing from you.

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It is possible that your boyfriend suffers from low testosterone levels. You may have seen the television commercial for low T. 

Testosterone is a hormone. In men, it is produced in the testes, the reproductive glands that also produce sperm.

Symptoms of low testosterone include reduced sex drive, decreased energy, loss of body hair and depressed mood.

Maybe, a physical examination and routine blood testing, including checking testosterone levels might be in order for your boyfriend. Ruling out an underlying medical reason for a low libido may be a good idea.


January 9, 2012 - 5:31pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

I have thought about it and have brought it up. One thing I forgot to mention is that he does like to watch porn. Not excessive but he does and sometimes he comes to me to get off and others he takes care of himself. I do not mind and we have talked about it but I have told him that if him taking care of himself overcomes us being together sexual then it will become a problem. Again he does not do this very much. I do keep a eye on the computer and he is very open about it to me. One thing I can say is he is very honest to me about things.

January 10, 2012 - 5:18am
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