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Peeing all the time!!!

By May 31, 2008 - 8:42am
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Ok, this might sound weird but I promise that this is true, I just want to find help for my friend. With that said, I've got a friend who is a girl who is about 18. She's got a problem with every time that she laughs really hard she almost pees her pants, when she is really scared or startled she almost pees her pants, yesterday when she was trying to sneak up on me... just crouching to hide behind something was enough to make her feel like she had to pee. It's a joke between us but, I just feel bad for her cause I'm sure deep down it really bothers her. I was curious to see if anyone had any suggestions or ideas of what she could do?

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Anon - This can be caused by a medical condition known as urinary retention. It's more common in men than in women, and is very real. Left untreated, this can lead to additional issues, so you need to see your healthcare provider. You may be referred to a urologist, which is a doctor who specializes in treating urinary tract issues. The following link provides a lot of good information that will help you better understand this and prepare for your appointment. Thanks for writing and looking out for your health!

January 18, 2011 - 5:38pm
EmpowHER Guest

Well i don't know but i am a boy and my balder hurt a lot and i feel like i need to pea, but when i get to the bathroom and pea only a little come. Anyone can help me please because it hurt like everyday!

January 18, 2011 - 4:59pm
EmpowHER Guest

i kind of have the same problem ,is that i feel that im going to pee and i go many many times to the toilet im really ashamed. and i suffer cause i feel that my kidney is aching me (i went to the doctor and he told me that i had nothing) i want to a psychiatre he told me it's because of fear and stress i got medecine but nothing help.my life turn out to hell

September 12, 2008 - 5:26pm


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June 1, 2008 - 8:28am

What a great advocate you are! You may find someone at the following organizations that can help your friend address her issue with peeing all the time. They might be able to make a recommendation for doctors in your area:

American Urogynecologic Society
2025 M Street, NW, Suite 800
Washington, DC 20036
Phone: 202–367–1167
Email: info@augs.org
Internet: www.augs.org

American Urological Association
1000 Corporate Boulevard
Linthicum, MD 21090
Phone: 1–866–RING–AUA (746–4282) or 410–689–3700
Email: aua@auanet.org
Internet: www.UrologyHealth.org

National Association for Continence
P.O. Box 1019
Charleston, SC 29402–1019
Phone: 1–800–BLADDER (252–3337) or 843–377–0900
Email: memberservices@nafc.org
Internet: www.nafc.org

The Simon Foundation for Continence
P.O. Box 815
Wilmette, IL 60091
Phone: 1–800–23–SIMON (237–4666) or 847–864–3913
Email: simoninfo@simonfoundation.org
Internet: www.simonfoundation.org

Has she talked to her primary care physician yet?

May 31, 2008 - 4:26pm

I did some research for you, and here is what I found that might help your friend understand her "peeing all the time". It does sound like she should talk to a doctor, either her OB/GYN (does she have one yet?) or a Urologist,, just to rule out that this is not a symptom of something else.

There are so many different types, and causes, for urinary incontinence. One type of incontinence, called Stress Incontinence, is the unintentional loss of urine prompted by a physical movement or activity, such as coughing, sneezing or heavy lifting, that puts pressure — stress — on your bladder. Stress incontinence is not related to
psychological stress. (from www.mayoclinic.com)

Looks like the most important aspects to know now include:
1. Is there pain, pressure or discharge with urination
2. Is there a more strong, persistent urge to urinate (instead of a little urine "just escaping" when startled)
3. Any discoloration or blood with urine?
4. "peeing all the time"...is she actually urinating frequently (going to the bathroom), or is it still the "involuntary loss" of urine when startled?

Being over-hydrated, under-hydrated, certain foods, medications, alcohol, smoking, caffeine...all of these can play a role in triggering loss of urine.

Also other illness, injuries or health problems (ie, diabetes or kidney disease), being overweight, playing high-impact sports, constipation...can also play a role in contributing to loss of urine.

I also found out that, along with alcohol and smoking, there are other "bladder irritants": Carbonated drinks, tea and coffee — with or without caffeine — may irritate your bladder and cause episodes of urge incontinence. Citrus fruits and juices and artificial sweeteners also can be sources of aggravation.

The good news: depending on your friends' situation, a simple change in lifestyle (diet, exercise, etc) can help her. There are also Kegel exercises that may/may not help.

Does any of this apply to your friend?
- Is she overweight (obese), over-hydrated or under-hydrated? These would be signs to see a doctor.

- Does she smoke, play contact sports, use medication, use the bathroom on a regular basis (does not "hold it" for hours-on-end)?
- Does she drink caffeine, sodas, fruit juice, alcohol?

If so, she may want to try to avoid these "triggers" to see if her incontinence is relieved (but, not in lieu of seeing a doctor!)

May 31, 2008 - 2:56pm
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You're a good advocate and a great friend to come to EmpowHer to even ask the question. And want to try to help her.

Sounds to me like she should see a urplogist. A urplogist is a doctor who could help her identify whetter or not she she has a bladder incontinence issue. I actually suffer from incontinence.

I'm much older then she is and mine started after having a complete hysterctomy. I couldn't dance without losing my bladder.

It's not fun to laugh and have to worry about feeling like you're going to wet your pants.

She may have a bladder that has fallen or its the way she's been anatomically made.

Its something she should have checked. Then based on the findings. There are many things she can do to help her situation.

Better to address it now then to wait until its so bad that she can't hold her bladder when laughing., dancing or sneezing.

This is not uncommon for women. But is less common in younger women, I suspect.

Lots she can do though. Finding a good urlolgist who specializes in Womens bladder issues is the first step.

Let me know if there is something else we can do to help your friend.

Best in health,


May 31, 2008 - 2:05pm

I found some info on EmpowHer from other women struggling with incontinence that might be helpful for you. If you could share more about your symptoms and experiences, I'm sure you'll help others (who've been there) narrow down your issue.

Nascent, please let me know if this information I've pulled together is a helpful start. I'm still working on getting you additional info, but this should be a wonderful start.


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May 31, 2008 - 1:52pm

I'm checking with some of our experts. I'm sure others who've had this experience will share their thoughts with you.

Be back soon.


May 31, 2008 - 1:39pm
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