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By March 18, 2013 - 10:32pm
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A couple of months back u must have come across a similar question ... woman with a sick spouse ( suffers from multiple sclerosis ) . my story is almost similar to that. i am 26 yr old, married for 3 years , to a spouse with MS . now i feel i have given over too much of me . want to come out of this relationship as i regret my marraige . although i wa aware of his condition then i married him not completely out of my wish but out some sympathy & pity. its a terrible step in my life . i was not allowed to discuss this situation with my parents then and i got married without them knowing that the guy has MS. Although his condition is fairly ok now, had trouble walking , but manages to do his stuff . also his attitude towards the condition is not so good. he is sometimes depressed, angry, laid back. all n all this fear about the future that i have with him has crept in me now and i somehow want to get out of it.i also feel guilty of leaving a sick spouse , but i dont find there is any meaning in continuing too. i am having trouble deciding to stay or leave. Plz help.

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Yikes... whatever happened to "in sickness and in health"?

March 19, 2013 - 10:52am
(reply to Anonymous)

didnt really get what u mean to say . thanks anyways.

March 20, 2013 - 12:20pm
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Anonymous (reply to pally1986)

Hi pally1986,

It's never healthy to continue a relationship when there's no love for the other person.  You might want to discuss this with your parents, since they know about his illness.   Am sure your family can give you a good advice on how you should approach this situation.  

Best of luck,


March 20, 2013 - 1:20pm
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Hi pally1986,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  You need to sit and discuss with him on how you feel. The question is, if you love him.  If you still do, then counseling can help you see things differently. You can't stay in a relationship just for pity.  You can very well be friends and help him while he goes through this terrible illness. 

Wish you the best,


March 19, 2013 - 3:59am
(reply to Anonymous)

Hi daisy

thanks for ur reply. i have considered of being his friend n helping him as i still do care about him. But i dont think i love him that much now to still be in a relationship with him for the rest of my life. i have started to feel that i was too naive to fall into this. and also that i deserve something better . He has treated me bad at different times n i dont think i can give more to him . do u think i should discuss this with my parents ? as my parents are unaware of his illness i am scared to let them know about it.

March 20, 2013 - 12:18pm
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