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victim of abuse

By May 2, 2011 - 3:23pm
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i have a brother who was sexually abused when he was 13 years old.he is now 25 and only upon being faced with a marriage proposition has he disclosed this horrific violation to us. he is afraid that due to the assault he is now impotent. he told us that whilst he was resting at a friends place, he had a n erection and this friend on noticing it, suddenly and violently grabbed his erect penis and began pulling it very severely causing him immense pain.he says that after that encounter he felt as though something was "disconnected" and he has seen a gradual decline in maintaining an erection. for too long now he has suffered mentally and emotionally and now feels he will never be able to satisfy a woman. please offer me any sound advice as to what we can do to help him or what necessary steps should be taken in order to conclude if any physical damage has been made and also how he can deal with this mental torture he suffers daily.thank you

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I am deeply sorry to hear about your brother's traumatic sexual experience and that he has dealt with this trauma in silence for so many years. Your brother needs to make an appointment with a urologist. A urologist can perform a physical examination to determine if there has been any permanent damage. To heal emotionally, your brother needs to make an appointment with a well-trained and sensitive mental health care professional. With the love and support from a caring family combined with the medical expertise of a urologist and the skilled counseling from therapy, your brother can live a fulfilling and happy life. He truly deserves this. I will keep you and your brother in my prayers.

May 2, 2011 - 4:37pm
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

thank you so much maryann for your informed and heart-warming reply. you actually made me tear after i read your response that someone out there completely unknown to me can be so caring and selfless in helping others. if only the world was full of maryanns it would be a great one...thank you and i will definitely pass this information on to my brother and hopefully he will recover completely. all the best and thanx for your prayers too

May 3, 2011 - 2:19pm
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