My mother in law and also my father in law try to put subtle pressure on me to get pregnant. My husband and I are in our thirties and don't want kids.
My mother in law, particularly when I am visiting her, will point out someone's baby and say " I want one of those". I reply by saying something like" Well, you'd better get working on it then", trying to be funny, as she is 62.
I am beginning to resent her subtle demands. I feel that it is my life and my body and that this issue is between me and my husband.
The in laws even discussed it behind my back with my husband, offering to help pay for freezing my eggs(which to me sounds like an horrific procedure of injections, etc.). i was very angry that my husband even let them discuss it with him as I feel that it is no one's business but ours. i will be visiting the in laws soon and there are lots of babies around when I see them. What should/ can I say to them if they go on about me getting pregnant? Or IS it their business? Do they have a right to be involved?
The whole thing depresses me a lot as I feel it's a very bad idea for them to want something from someone else so badly and also, it's a terrible idea to have a baby for someone else if you don't want one.
I told my husband how I feel and he finally came around to the idea that it is OUR business alone. He is super close to his parents and often talks to his mother every day! But now he is realizing that this is our life and our decision.
So any ideas would be welcome. Is it ok to tell them that I don't wish to discuss it with them? Should I ignore what they say?
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