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what do when a guys just knew for only a week,sleep with you and doesnt want any thing to do with you

By Anonymous July 17, 2011 - 1:23am
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yea this is true but many relationships do still happen even if you have sex the firt date or week. If you know you know and the chemistry is there from the start. Just skipped all the bullshit and got to the piont. here's the thing no it's not bullshit getting to know that person and spending time with them but there is always time for that and so much more comfortable because you know that person inside and out. why prolong the inevitable, like I said if the chemisrty is there. The problem is guys are always terrified of comitment. And the feelings that come with sex that's why they have girl friends because they like the company but don't want the comitment. But what they don't get is why not have both. That is if you like the girl and if you liked her enough to want....well some guys only care about sex. so and some girls that's all they want too. But if it is beautiful and you can't stop thinking about her and what you should do.. What's so hard about it you already did, knowingly about your intintions. There must have been something about her. As far a week alot can happen, alot can happen in oneday that could change your life forever and never leave you the same.... The waiting bullshit is just a gaurd us girls use so we don't get hurt but truth is we will anway somehow someway. But yes you should deffinantly...don't reccomend doing something like that unless you really think they are worth it.
Because you are worth it, worth the waite. And if they are they will reveal it either way. Taking a leap of faith is never easy.

July 18, 2011 - 4:45pm
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Hi Anonymous,
Unfortunately, I have to agree with mena and say, this is a learning lesson that men can certainly be hurtful sometimes. Women certainly can ge attached to men after sex emotionally and men tend to think of it more as an activity and move on quickly.

I hope that you will cry, be sad and remember that next time.....it may be worth waiting to have sex. I am sorry that this happened to you, but your certainly not the first nor the last. Good luck.


July 17, 2011 - 9:10am

well it's the same old rule, as old as the world is: do nothing.
don't call, don't text, don't email. if you feel hurt which is normal, since it looks like you wanted something more with him, focus on something else.
and just think: even though it might hurt a lot and seem like a tragedy now, you just wrote you knew him for about a week. meaning that you're suffering over someone who's been there just a WEEK out of your entire life. now, how can a person gain such an importance in just a week? ok, love can strike when you least expect it, but just stop for a second and think about WHO is he really.
How much of that "HIM" is really what he is and how much is your own vision, hope and projection of who he should be.
really, how well do you know HIM? how can you be in love with somebody truly without even knowing him? it is true that sometimes you can just "feel" a person and who he/she is, sometimes you can have this empathy and a gut feeling, but usually when these are around the guys don't run off after having sex with you for one time only.

July 17, 2011 - 6:10am
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