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Whats wrong with me ?

By Anonymous May 10, 2015 - 1:39pm
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      I am a lady in the late 30, I do not know why some women draw my attention? I'm not a lesbian but I like women's cleavage and need to give me feelings of tenderness, always imagine I lay in her lap or put my head on her chest, I feel myself like a baby.

     sometimes i imagine i am gentelman in 40 wearing luxury clothes and fall in love with woman.

please help with this feeling which killing me.

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Sometimes feeling we don't understand arise from gaps in our upbringing.  For example people who grew up without a father could crave masculine/fatherly attention and love as an adult.  Perhaps your feelings stem from a deep rooted need that was not met in the past.  This is one possibility.


May 12, 2015 - 8:46pm
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Anonymous (reply to fchacon)

i am appreciate your reply, but what is the solution? i like if woman care about me, however i don't have girlfriends to make any relation, just between time to another going out with old friends.

May 13, 2015 - 4:29am
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

 If you are located in the US you can use Meetup.com to find community groups.  On the website you can find organized groups of people with similar interests as you.  You can join a group such as a yoga class at a gym, a book club, a hiking group, etc.

Perhaps all it takes is getting connected with one of these groups in your community.


May 13, 2015 - 9:43pm
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Anonymous (reply to fchacon)

Hello dear,

i am not locate in US but i will do whatever you mentioned .. thank you for helping ..

May 17, 2015 - 8:39am

Hello and thank you for sharing your question.

I don't think you should punish yourself for having these feelings.  I believe that the first step to knowing how to react to your own desires is to accept them as good.  You are not harming anyone; so these thoughts aren't wrong.  Don't let social norms or expectations put you in a box.  In other words, you don't need to feel guilty about your natural inclinations.


May 10, 2015 - 7:46pm
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Anonymous (reply to fchacon)

Thank you for your reply
there is one more thing which i forgot to mention. it is not in all women but few of them if i look at her hand,my heart telling me she is Affectionate, at the same time i want her to hold my hand.

thank you again

May 11, 2015 - 5:49am
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