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whats wrong with my boyfriend

By Anonymous April 27, 2011 - 10:13am
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My boyfriend and i have been dating a year n a half now... at first he was very sexual...wanted pictures, videos, actually wanted me...which lasted like 4 months... we had to have a long distance relationship for his job for a few months and i noticed id send him videos or pics and he wouldnt say anything about them or acknoledge them... now he lives back in town and we see eachother very often but he never wants sex....most of the time i have to ask for it, sometimes he says no hes not feeling it...he says he wouldnt be with me if it had something to do with me, he said he doesnt know why but he doesnt have a high sex drive... hes 27 he should i would think. He will sometimes masterbate in the shower which if hes not feeling it, why does he do that? maybe cause hes lazy and its easier that way? I havent changed in weight or anything since the first time...i have no idea what it is maybe he needs more working out? maybe its his job and hes tired all the time? maybe some men just dont have high sex drives... i feel like it because he has me, like when its someone new hes all excited and sexual but now that he has me hes just bored..i keep it interesting and am not boring ...he likes it when we do, do it...and theres nothing wrong with him being able to get it up...i dont know what to do to fix this, but its taking a huge toll on my self esteem and insecurities..its all i think about.

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Hi Anon

Thanks for your question and I'm sorry this is happening in your relationship. Based on what you have said, there could be dozens of reasons why your boyfriend is not having sex with you. Please read our special thread on this subject, where you will read tons of advice, suggestions and the stories of other women - I hope it can shed some light on your own very similar situation:


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